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  1. I had to think about this for awhile, but I've realized you're right. My parents were not really involved in my life. I really can't remember having any meaningful conversations with them, ever. And yes, my ex did zone out most of the time. He was there physically. Mentally, I don't know where he was, but it wasn't with me. So how do I not end up with another guy just like him?
  2. OK, how did you know? Responsibility and silence were the two main issues in our marriage. There were others, but if the man had shared the load and talked to me, we wouldn't be divorced.
  3. I have one sister who is two years older than I am. We didn't have a lot of money growing up, mostly because my parents were pretty bad at managing it. We always had enough to eat and a roof over our heads. There just wasn't a lot extra for things like vacations and activities. We went to church sporadically when my mother wanted to go. My dad never went. I don't remember there being a lot of conflict at home. We pretty much just went our separate ways. As long as my sister and I got good grades and stayed out of trouble, we could pretty much do whatever we wanted to do. You know, I never really thought about it until recently, but I have few childhood memories that involve my parents. What do you suppose that's about? Anyway, I guess I had a pretty average upbringing. I'm not sure how that plays into marrying the guy I married.
  4. I miss him sometimes. Well, to be honest, I miss what might have/should have been, if that makes sense. Our marriage was over long before he actually moved out, so when he finally left, the main thing I felt was relief. I know I'm better off without him, and I wouldn't want him back. I'm just lonely. I think I just don't know how to be single. We were married for 20 years. I'm afraid to start dating again because I don't want to end up in the same kind of relationship, but all of my friends are couples and most of the time I feel like a 3rd wheel (although my friends do work hard to make me not feel like that).
  5. Hi, I saw you have a free week if I post here. Is it really free? And can I get some help? I'm divorced from a man who exhibited a lot of the things you have listed in the 21 forms of abuse on your site. The divorce was final 6 months ago, but I feel kind of - I don't know. Maybe lost is the word? I'm not sure how to move forward.